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The Ultimate Goal is Not Marriage

Most little girls are raised to believe that marriage is the ultimate achievement. There is a lot of pressure put on women in their twenties to find a spouse and to have kids before 30. For some reason, society imagines the ultimate worth of women to be measured by the number of children we have and if we have a successful marriage.

Let me tell you something, all of those things are a lie straight from the pits of hell. No, seriously! Marriage can be beautiful, but it's a lot of work. A successful marriage can be an asset to your mental health just as an unhappy marriage can cause your demise. Having children is beautiful and many women have described the toll is takes in your body and mental health. Having a family is amazing, but let us not forget that it requires time, patience and sacrifice.

We should be teaching little girls that the ultimate goal in life is to be happy. If that is happiness in a marriage, so be it. If that ultimately means being happy alone, that's awesome too! So many people are miserable because they place more value on being married, versus placing value in being happy in life. As a married women myself, I can assure you that marriage has no value unless it is happy. The label of being married brings no joy to your life, if it is literally tearing down your confidence, peace and overall wellbeing. Be Happy!! Make that your goal!

None of us knows what happens in someone else's home, and frankly it's not our business. The only thing we need to concern ourselves with is making sure we are designing our lives in a manner that makes us happy. Your life has to work for you! Ensure you are happy and disregard what anyone else says.

With Love,

Val Barnett

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